So here I am now at our computer room, drinking my hot cup of coffee to keep me awake and I'm also trying my best to write something interesting for tonight's blog post (which will prolly be published by tomorrow). I'm sure you guys will definitely relate to this. As I'm typing this words right now, I'm having a terrible coughs & colds. I've been suffering from this since yesterday and it's getting worst. It sucks, I know.
Anyway, as I was saying, you guys are familiar with this topic. All hail to everyone's (Majority, if not everyone) favorite 4 letter word. *drum roll* F-O-O-D! Hahaha just kidding! It's L-O-V-E, ofcourse! I know one of the reasons why you opened this blog post is because the title got you. Yeah, I got you, baby! Okay, with all kidding aside, before I continue with this, I just wanna clear things out. I'm not an expert when it comes to love. I think no one's an expert either, I'm not in a relationship right now (Ok you can breathe now) and last but definitely not the least, everything that is going to be written here is MY opinion. May it be from a personal experience, a friend's story, anything! You can agree or disagree. Either way, I'm just expressing myself here. :)
So I'll start off with this.. what do you guys do when you're bored, can't sleep or overthinking about something? If you're going to ask me what I do when I'm on those situations, my answer is that I read. Yes, I read a lot. Are you guys familiar with Thought Catalog? If yes, then gimme a high five!! That is one of my favorite site to read on.
Okay so one day as I was looking for something to read, I came across to this post which is entitled, 10 signs you're in a healthy, mature relationship by Paris James. Ofcourse I read it and I couldn't agree more with what she said there. Scroll down to know what's my take on that 10 signs...
I'm sure we all had & experienced a puppy love kind of story. If you're gonna say no, then you're not normal! Just kidding! ;) Going back, That was the time when we thought we are mature enough to do some decisions for ourselves. The time where we thought those puppies are for keeps. I mean we all believed in the word "forever" right?! Oh aminin! and it was also the time where our phones are like glued to our hands. Texting all day and night. Talking to each other until midnight or until someone fall asleep and all. But hey, fast forward to the present a.k.a today, I hope we all passed that childish phase.
1. RESPECT. Respect is something that you need and give not just to your partner but also to the people around you. Trust me, t'will take you to good places. It is about respecting one's decision. It's about understanding the differences that the both of you has.
2. TRUST. This one's very very important especially to us girls. They (guys) like it when we show them that we trust them a lot. Same thing with the girls, it is an important thing to us to be trusted by our partners. You don't stalk or check their phones when they're not around just to know if they are talking to other girls or whatevs. I, personally, hate stalking. I just let the evidences come to me. Lol!
3. SUPPORT. You support each other when it comes to studies, works or hobbies. You don't stop them from doing what they want. It doesn't have to be a big thing. You can still show your support to him/her with the little things. If he wants to try out for a university's basketball team, then support him and tell him that he can do it. If she wants to go shopping, then accompany her and tell her that you'll carry the bags for her. (oh c'mon support? support)
4. EQUALITY. Just like what my Religious Education professor told us, we're all created equal. So there's no reason that only one of you will do every single thing. I mean the both of you are in that relationship, it will not be called "relationship" if it doesn't involve two people, right? So that means the both of you must exert effort to make the relationship last. For example, you can give him a flower (ok you don't really have to follow my suggestion haha!) and I know that guys are expected to pay everything but girls, it isn't a mortal sin to sometimes pay naman kahit for the food lang or movie tickets. Cause let's face it, money doesn't grow on trees. So I hope you got my point. :)
5. COMMUNICATION. Girls love communicating. Texting. Calling. Facetime-ing. Everything that involves talking to our significant other. But communication is also important to know someone deeper. It is where the both of you will build a connection. A connection where only the two of you can understand. Especially if the both of you are arguing about something. You don't just walk away and not talk to him/her. As a mature people, you two must talk about it (calmly, okay?) Explain if you're asked to. Apologize if needed. Fix everything before going to bed.
6. STABILITY. Remember the puppy love that I mentioned above? Who can still remember the times where the both of you fight and decided to break up and then get back after an hour or so? Now that we're mature (well I hope so), we know that that style or doing is so immature, right? If you guys are still doing that, oh I'm telling you that your relationship is not healthy & mature yet. If the both of you has misunderstandings or issues, you BOTH must resolve it TOGETHER. Breaking up will just make the situation worst.
7. PRIVACY. This one's connected with Trust. First, you don't open all his accounts and read everything there and start a fight if you saw that he liked a girl's photo on instagram (lol!). Second, you don't update your Facebook status or tweet every single second everytime the two of you fight. Sometimes it's better not to tell the world the story of your relationship, in that way, less people will try to act and assume as if they know everything that's happening between the two of you.
8. SPONTANEITY. Surprises! Ofcourse you don't want to have a boring relationship right? Doing the same things everytime. You need to think of the ways on how you can make your relationship more exciting. Try new things. Go to places that you've never been before. Serenade her.
9. SPACE. This has got to do with being clingy. Being clingy is cute. Yes, it is but it can be annoying if it's too much. Don't overdo things. Trust me.. You don't easily get mad and start a fight if it took him 30 minutes to reply on your text. You can ask him calmly what took him so long and understand that he also has to do other things besides texting you. Remember that we also need a ME time once in a while.
10. APPRECIATION. This has got to be my favorite. Appreciate the big and little things that your partner is doing for you.Take time to say thank you and I love you. You can say those words anytime. Especially after they did something for you. It is an amazing feeling to know that someone is actually doing an effort to make you happy, feel loved, needed & special. :)
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